Saturday, December 30, 2006
Thursday, December 28, 2006
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
The First Time I Met Lia by Addison
The first time I met Lia Rose she cried hard. She was cuter than a baby that was one years old. Shake your head Lia. She pee'd in her pants and her mommy changed her diaper.And then, her mom gave her a big present. It was a big fluffy teddy bear.And she smiled so much that she hugged her mommy
Monday, December 25, 2006
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
December 19, 2006
China Tightens Adoption Rules, U.S. Agencies Say By JIM YARDLEY
BEIJING, Dec. 20 — China is planning to issue new, tighter restrictions on foreign adoptions of Chinese children, which would prohibit adoptions by parents who are unmarried, who are obese or who are older than 50, according to adoption agencies in the United States.
The new regulations, which have not yet been formally announced by the state-run China Center of Adoption Affairs, are to take effect on May 1, 2007, and seem certain to slow the rapid rise in applications by foreign parents to adopt Chinese babies.
"This is absolutely going to affect a percentage of our clientele," said Heather Terry, a spokesperson for the Great Wall of China Adoption Agency in Austin, Texas. "This will probably affect quite a lot of people in 2007."
Ms. Terry said that foreign adoption agencies learned of the new regulations at a Dec. 8 meeting in Beijing with officials from the adoption-affairs center. Chinese officials told the foreign agencies that applications had begun to exceed the number of available babies, and that the new rules were partly intended to address that imbalance.
Ms. Terry added that China also wanted to slow foreign adoptions because "they are opening up domestic adoptions now."
The adoption-affairs center declined requests in recent weeks by The New York Times for an interview on adoption policy. An unnamed official cited by the Associated Press confirmed that the government is considering new guidelines, but declined to discuss any specifics.
Even so, adoption agencies in the United States are already telling prospective parents about the rule changes or posting the guidelines on their websites. "C.C.A.A. has decided to both reduce the number of dossiers accepted by applying stricter standards to potential adoptive families and to increase the number of children available for adoption by improving the situation of children in China’s orphanages," Jackie Harrah wrote in a letter posted on the website of Harrah’s Adoption International Mission in Spring, Texas.
Adoption agencies were told that China intended to increase the supply of adoptable children by creating a new charity named Blue Skies, which would focus on improving health care for medically fragile infants or premature babies at orphanages. An initial goal of this charity would be to buy incubators for many of the country’s orphanages, according to the Harrah’s Adoption website.
Ms. Terry said that the most significant rule change is the new ban against single parents. Up to now, Ms. Terry said, China has allowed single parents to make up as many as 8 percent of all referrals; the new rules would eliminate that quota. The age restrictions also have been tightened; China now allows people up to 55 to be considered.
Some of the new rules focus on the fiscal, physical and psychological health of prospective parents. People who are taking medication for anxiety or depression can be disqualified under the new rules. Couples will be disqualified if either person has a body fat measurement exceeding 40 percent (30 percent is generally considered obese). And a prospective adoptive family’s net worth must now exceed $80,000.
China will also disqualify families that already have more than four children in the home.
Ms. Terry said that her agency has already started applying the new guidelines. "We’re no long accepting singles," she said. "That is the most significant change."
Single parents who are already involved in the application process and can complete and file their paperwork before May 1 can remain eligible for a Chinese child.
Ms. Terry said she believed that Chinese officials were trying to act in the best interests of the adopted children. "All the agencies worldwide have to abide by these guidelines now," she said.
Sunday, December 17, 2006
Saturday, December 16, 2006
Friday, December 15, 2006
Thursday, December 14, 2006
Joe is absolutely correct Wendi, stop, stop, stop looking for the negative.I've learned in life that the negative things you fear NEVER happen.It's just your imagination going wild. I think you have to pause and take a deep breath and just wait. Center your thoughts and emotions on the coming days and the arrival of the kids and the wonderful holiday time you are planning. Do not let unsubstantiated information and imaginings put a damper on your life right now.Your loving mom
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
Monday, December 11, 2006
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Tuesday, December 05, 2006
Hi Wendy: Good hearing from you. I share your angst. We all wish there was more information to share, but unfortunately there just isn't much new. The process moves forward ever so slowly at the moment. My feeling is with the current longer waits, less people will apply and soon the waiting time will decrease because there are fewer dossier. Maybe this is just wishful thinking, but China has always had periods when the waits were unbearable but eventually it turns around because they delay the process and it discourages families from applying. I know alot of families that are looking into other options because they can't bear the length of time the process is currently taking in China. Do I thnk your wait will be 18 months, I certainly hope not, but I guess anything is possible. ..... so, not sure if this makes me feel better or worse....but I guess it's just knowing something that helps...
Friday, December 01, 2006
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Monday, November 27, 2006
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Friday, November 24, 2006
This is a video of filming inside of a Chinese Orphanage. Can you believe this is how Lia Rose maybe living right now.....oh baby, we will be there soon. Mommy, Daddy, Adam, Annie, Grandmom, Grandad, God Grandad Mikey and God Grandmom Dorothy, Auntie Lori, Uncle Greg, Hayley, Cece, Addie and Molly!
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Some of the things I am intend to do are:
Get myself into a good, not break the habit, habit of working out each day. By working out I do mean some sort of cardio activity. Perhaps it's not a heavy duty workout at the gym, but at least 30 minutes of walking. In fact, my friend/neighbor Simone and I have begun walking early in the morning. This morning we were out at 5am, yes, 5am. I had to go to sleep last nite at 8pm to do so, but it felt good this morning. I think it's important for me to get into this habit now, so that when Lia arrives I have some good patterns set up. Also, I want to be as healthy as possible and energetic when she gets here, so exercise is absolutely essentially.
I have also decided to give up sweets...I am talking about cookies, cakes, pies, chocolate and ice cream...until she gets here. I know, I am crazy, but first off, it's a good way to lose some weight, but secondly, it will give me something to focus on rather then the craziness of focusing on the long weight, I mean wait (freudian? )...I'll focus on will power and being strong and not breaking to eat that delicious piece of apple pie with brown sugar and ice cream...yikes!!! Can I really do this? I have to admit, that I might from time to time have a Weight Watchers treat...but they don't count! I know, I am absurd, that's just me
And most importantly, I want to find my niche professionally that I'll be able to continue to earn a nice income, with the benefit of some time working from home so I can take care of my daughter (more on this topic later)
Anyway, enough for now. Joe is upstairs sleeping. He is nervous about surgery, so I am letting him rest. I can't wait till he feels good again! So much to look forward to.
Not much to report on the adoption front. It's the wait...the cool thing is we are very close to being one month closer to Lia....although, not sure how many more months to go.
Joe's surgery is this coming Wednesday. I must tell you, the guy has been in so much pain. It's unbelievable actually how he has put up with it. I think he just came to the point where he couldn't stand it anymore. Plus, we have so much in life to look forward to, and it's important that he can enjoy life to the fullest. The surgery is the day before Thanksgiving, and then we will spend the Thanksgiving weekend at the hospital. I'm optimistic, that all will go well, and he will be bouncing back before we know it. On December 16, my stepkids will arrive. That is something we have both been looking forward to for so long. We will tell them about Lia. I can't wait...it's the news we both have been waiting to share. I am hopeful they will be as excited about it as I want them to be. Anyway, more later....
Sunday, November 12, 2006
1. Never hug her in person in the middle of Garden State Plaza
2. Never kiss her cheek or head in public places
3. Take her to the Bagel Buffet
4. Buy her clothes from Abercrombie and Finch never at Walmart
5. Make sure her hair is a bob cut when she is around five, then it should be long from 10 on
6. Make sure that I brush her hair for her when she asks
7. Let her have bubble baths every nite in our big jacuzzi style bathtub
8. Do not under any circumstances share with anyone in public that she is cute or that she made the cheerleading squad
9. Do not hold her hand unless it's a matter of safety
10. DO NOT ever speak Yiddish in public or sing or dance! (No Gut ta nus!)
I am telling you, I learned alot this weekend! And last nite, when Sydney asked me to sleep with her and snuggle. She let me wrap my arms around her and she said, "Wendi you are going to be the best mommy in the world!"
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Saturday, November 04, 2006
We saw a funny, hysterical, not for the children movie (Borak) and then believe or not I made dinner. I say believe it or not because I am not known for my cooking, but I did make a lovely salad, my sister's greek salad recipe, pasta and veggies. Including homemade tomato sauce. When my step kids are here for the holidays I promise myself to cook more. Plus when Joe is recovering from the hip replacement, he deserves some good cooking....maybe we should order out after all! Oy! I have to become somewhat more domestic especially by next fall, when Lia day is approaching.
I changed the look of this blog tonite. I feel that it symbolizes the next stage in this process...who am I kidding, I was bored and playing around with templates....what do you think? Notice the counter on the bottom, that will track are Log In Date to referral. I can't wait till it says 300 days...hopefully the referral will be just around the corner. I am also adding some links to some of my favorite blogs. Make sure to check them. It does get addicting.
Friday, November 03, 2006
Thursday, November 02, 2006
Wednesday, November 01, 2006
Monday, October 30, 2006
The referrals that were expected last week, never arrived. Right now they are saying this week, and no one has any idea of how many days they will match. It's such a roller coaster of a ride. I won't get off of it though. This is what I am meant to do. I think my husband does make some sense in the way he is dealing with the wait. He pays no attention to it. He knows that Lia will be here when she is supposed to. Me, I am online...networking with other moms and dads...reading blog after blog. I have to do it this way. For me that is the right way, for my husband, he has his own. Tonight though, I really miss you Lia. I am sorry I can't be there for you ...but you are in my heart. Please someone, take care of her for me. Please.
Sunday, October 29, 2006
Thursday, October 26, 2006
I wrote my agency yesterday concerning the LID (Log In Date)...she emailed me tonite and said no word yet. But the good news is it looks like referrals are coming in this month, and it might be a big month of referrals, which is what we need! More to come, but let's keep those positive affirmations!
The good news is that it's almost the end of October...this month flew by. I will keep staying productive and hopefully they all will!
Tuesday, October 24, 2006
Who knows maybe we can change things just simply believing that they are true.
Not much more going on...just trying to stay busy, productive, happy and healthy during this lovely (you see a positive affirmation!) wait!
Thanks for your good thoughts!
Saturday, October 21, 2006
I mean, god bless her for trying to the right thing and help this boy (although I do feel if she wanted to help him so much, why not give the father some money to go and make a better life for his son-something isn't right here) but there is no way it could take under one month to adopt a child. Perhaps we will find out that she filled out an adoption application, submitted it to an agency, did a homestudy, had her fingerprints taken, had medicals done, had letters of refererence written, submitted photos of her family life, did a letter of intention as to why she wanted to adopt a child, then submitted an I600 form to obtain an I171 to bring the orphan back into the USA....but perhaps she didn't need to do the last part since she lives in England!!! Hmmm, I don't think so!
Last week I attended a dinner for a friend who was getting an award. I saw a lot of old business associates who I hadn't seen in some time....I of course was just thrilled to share my news of my adoption...but almost everyone I told cracked a few jokes..."ha ha, are u adopting your African baby now"...or "oh you are trying to be just like Madonna, huh? " I found myself defending my baby. And what I was doing. I know no one meant to hurt my feelings, in fact I know they were thrilled for me...but the jokes were hurtful, and as mom waiting for her baby....it really isn't funny....
Anyway, on a lighter note, I went out today and bought Lia a few things...I know, I shouldn't ...but I couldn't help it, and I have to say they look nice hanging in the closet. It feels really 'real" when I see them there. Plus, I had to get a gift for my "cyber shower" buddy in my Yahoo September DTC Group...we are officially known as "The Red Threads of September"...each month, we will buying each other gifts!!! This month theme is zoo....
Tuesday, October 17, 2006
This is a picture of my beautiful step daughter Annie.
Words can not describe how special this young woman is. She has a maturity far beyond her 13 1/2 years. She has a sweetness in her soul that is unmatched. Needless to say, I adore her. Annie lives in Australia with her mom and my stepson Adam. This holiday season, they are all mine! And, of course my hubby's. I can not wait! I haven't see the kids in almost two years. Last holiday season, Joe went without me to spend a solid month with the kids. This year, we will all be together here. This year, we will share the great news about the upcoming arrival of their sister Lia Rose. I hope they will be as happy about it as we are. I think they will.
No new news on the adoption front. The wait continues. New referrals are being announced next week. The bummer is that they make referrals once a month...and they are only doing about two weeks at a time. In other words, this month they will refer dossiers that were logged in August 15-28. If you were logged in on the 29th of August, you have to wait until November for the referral. Crazy stuff. They need to do one whole month of log ins at a time!
My yahoo message group-September DTC is having a cyber shower...we all send each other gifts....I am waiting on my buddy. I am anxious to do this as this will be my first baby gift giving to me by someone other then me...ever. So excited.
Saturday, October 14, 2006
I want my daughter. I want her home with me now! And it can't be. I want to feel like a mother. I want to take care of my child. I don't want this to be just an idea any longer, but reality.
How does one feel like a mom when she doesn't even know when she will see her child?
How does one continue to stay optimistic thru this long wait. I want to bring this baby home today. She needs me and I need her. It's time...and I hope the time moves quickly and life stays somewhat the same.
Sunday, October 08, 2006
Yesterday I babysat my friends' Simone and David's six month old beautiful baby Nyla. I had always thought of myself as a great babysitter. And I was. But while I was taking care of her I realized that in a year or so I will be doing this for my own daughter.....and I actually got nervous! I have no idea what I am doing. O'k, so what happens when you have to go to the bathroom? Do you sit there with there with the baby all day long or can you walk away if they are in a playarea or something? How do u know they are hungry? How do u know how much milk and food to give them? What if they have a cold...? A fever? How do you give them a bath? How the heck to you fold up that stupid baby carriage? Why did I feel that baby's tummy to see if it was moving when she took a nap...? Am I always going to wonder if the baby has stopped breathing!!!! Oh my gosh...so much to learn!!! Help !!!!!
Friday, October 06, 2006
Hayley Rose is my sister oldest daughter. My first born niece. She was 13 yesterday! I can't believe how time flies. From the minute this child was born, we had a special relationship. Although she cried everytime I held her or looked at her for the first 11 months of her life, I know everything would be o'k when her mommy asked her at the age of 1, "What does your Aunt Wendi say?" ....Hayley, the beautiful baby, proudly said "GUT"...(an abbrievation of a silly phrase I must say about 1200 a day...GUT TA NU, Yiddish for something like..."my god I love you so much) Hayley and I have a special relationship. From talking on the phone....pretty much constantly since she was about 2....to IMing on the computer....to hanging out with her friends, especially her best friend Samantha....I believe that my relationship with her is deeper then just niece and aunt. We are friends. And, I know that friendship will grow. Hayley was the first to really teach me what love meant. The first to make me feel like I could be a mommy.
Now do not get me wrong, I am equally in love with her two sisters, my Sydney and Addison. Hayley was just the first. Happy birthday to my darling niece Hayley. You are not only beautiful, but adventuresome, talented, smart and most of the time ...very very sweet. I will always be there for you. When I got my I600 approval in the mail, I called my hubby first, and then the girls...Sydney was screaming. Hayley was screaming...and she said to me, "Wendi, you are going to be the best mom ever!" Thanks Haylzz...I couldn't have done any of this without you.
Tuesday, October 03, 2006
Sunday, October 01, 2006
Thursday, September 28, 2006
When babies are left at the orphanages in China, the law requires that the caregivers must try to find their families. I am not sure of the exact rule behind this, so forgive me, but I do know that the Government places these finding outs. It lists where and when the babies were found, and I suppose where they are now. What is amazing is that these sometime are the first photos that parents receive. There is actually a company that goes and and finds the ads for you once you get your referral.
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
It came in a simple email from the agency "Wendi we received your I 700 from the Consulate...you are DTC today!!!" Those few words have literally sent me flying!!! The work is down...all of our paperwork for our daughter is on its way to China!!!!
I'm going to be a mommy. A real mommy with the most loved and special little girl in the whole world.
I am so excited for you Lia. Your daddy and I love you so much. I want to share this with my stepchildren, Adam and Annie...but we are waiting to tell them in person when they are with us over Christmas!! Lia completes our circle..and I pray that they are as happy about this as I am.
I came home from work tonite...and there was a big vase of roses. A simple card said..." To the best mom in the world!" xoxoxo
Of course, it was from my husband Joey....I love you sweetie.
Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Monday, September 25, 2006
I found this photo on line. It makes me so sad, yet happy to know that our daughters seem to be so well taken care of. Thank god for all the "aunties" who watch our babies. They are very special people. Please god, make sure that our Lia Rose Carroll is being watched over tonite. Make sure she is well fed, warmly dressed, and hugged when she cries.
Today was a good day for so many. The referrals I'm learning come once a month. In the past several months they have only been matching about a week and a half's worth (or something like that) Do the math, that can mean a very long wait time. However, today's match was over two weeks worth! So this is some positive movement. I am obsessed. I realize that. I literally can spend 24 hours a day on the internet reading blogs and message boards. There is so much great information and it's wonderful to read about families getting their referrals. It gives you so much hope. I woke up in the middle of the nite and snuck a look on the Rumor Queens site. This is the coolest website -www.chinaadopttalk.com. She (or he come to think about it) is a waiting mom or herself. She tracks down all the latest news and rumors. It can become a bit addictive and at times upsetting to read the site...in fact my agency yelled at me and told me to relax and read more about Chinese culture and less Rumor Queen :) ....She posted right away the referral timing directly from the CCAA site. It was good to see this positive movement.
I called my agency again....and I'll call everday this week if I have to....they said "you will definetly be DTC" this week. It might not sound like a big deal to some if it's this week or next...but every single day counts. She told me that my agency had seven referrals today and that they were all so cute!!!! Please keep your fingers crossed for us. Baby L we are coming for you soon!!!
Sunday, September 24, 2006
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Anyway, I spoke to the agency yesterday...Ruthie, the agency director, emailed and said that she felt for sure that we would be DTC this month. The bummer is that it will be another 14 months from Log in date to placement....but you know what, stranger things have happened and I am going to keep an open heart and open mind that this could change and become a faster referral. Lia will be with us when she is supposed to. In the meantime we have alot to do. I want to solidify some professional things I need to..(which I'll keep to myself for now)...my hubby has a bad hip, and we need to fix that. Most importantly,we will also get my step kids used to this idea of a little half sister.....which I am sure they will be happy about....I want to share this great news with them....and look forward to the holidays when we can!
Sunday, September 17, 2006
I met my husband almost five years ago (yes, can you believe it's that long) and my life changed so much. I moved out of a small walk up apartment in New York City. I actually bought Real Estate in New Jersey...and love it. I am of course about to be a mommy....and the list could go on and on. I want and need a family. Giving "birth" to my daughter will be the final step I need to take. Tonite however, I had a great moment of clairty. I do have that family that I crave, Lia is just the missing piece. On our Yahoo message boards our signatures tell a quick story about each of us. I looked at mine, and in a moment of great clairty I saw how full my life really was...I'm surrounded by the children I crave and need. I thank my husband for giving me everything that I desire. Joey, you are my dream come true and I love you so very much. Thank you for giving us Lia....to join the rest of the crew!
Dh Joe> Awaiting DTC> Mom to be to Lia Rose, my first...and I'm 45! >
Stepmum to Adam (19)> Stepmum to Annie (13 1/2)>
Mom to Molly (my doggie)>
Auntie to Hayley, Sydney and Addie (13, 11, and 5)
Saturday, September 16, 2006
Friday, September 15, 2006
We got it!!!! We got the approval to bring an orphan into this country!!!! This is it people...the last step before it gets sent to China...the next very important date is the DTC ...Dossier to China date....that's when the countdown really begins.
Wednesday, September 13, 2006
These are the wonderful faces of newly placed babies...aren't they beautiful.I put these all together to focus on the future and visualize what Lia Rose may look like.I love this. I hope you enjoy that face, that face that marvelous face!
Tuesday, September 12, 2006
Sunday, September 10, 2006
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Wednesday, August 30, 2006
I am getting anxious to get my forms!!! It's been three weeks today....the countdown continues.
Sunday, August 27, 2006
The stuff on the internet is just rumor. Nothing has been changed at this time and certainly won't be until January, if ever. Try not to worry, nothing has changed. Ruthie
Thursday, August 24, 2006
(You may need some tissues :) )
Wednesday, August 23, 2006
Tired to nite, so I will say goodnite....Wendi